But at the same time, their position is such that they know how to market effectively, and part of effective marketing is ensuring you get the most POSITIVE exposure you can.
Frankly, I expect such things, and as a reviewer, I know full well that managing relationships with vendors is a big task, and it's not really the job of a vendor to keep reviewers happy, at all.
Techpowerup is a pretty big site in the tech world, yet AMD will not supply me with a CPU so that I can properly market their partner's products. At the same time, I bash AMD's marketing department pretty openly, and as a result of that bashing, I truly think I would be expecting a bit much for AMD to actually help me out.
Ultimately, it is the job of a reviewer to market to their target audience. It's only natural for EA, or any company, to inquire about a reviewer's opinion and audience prior to arranging a review, and I expect them to ask those types of questions as listed in the OP.
A reviewer always has the option of chosing to not review a product if they feel the product is not good or if they think their audience would not approve, and likewise, companies have a right to not seed samples to reviewers if they do not think the review provided would work well for them, and to qualify reviewers to ensure the best results possible.