You're whining about a strong female lead, something that has existed in media since the dawn of man. Examples: Old:
Athena, Newer:
Aliens. It doesn't much less masculine than whining about strong women. The place where it's called out makes little difference.
You need to get it through your head that women are just as valid as men as leads, and have just as many personalities and traits as men. They are, after all, humans, and you would benefit to think of them as such, or you'll end up a very a lonely person.