Some hints to removing the solder:
Adding 60/40 leaded solder will lower the temperature of the solder that holds the pins on; you can just cover the whole thing with solder, and wipe the pins off with a soldering iron.
A 250W weller gun is great for this, and a leather pad will protect your desk while keeping the heat in the chip.
Removing the epoxy:
Once you have the interposer clean, you can dissolve the epoxy that's holding it together with either heat or acid.
Muractic acid or phosphoric acid work pretty well.
Muractic is HCl, and is in driveway cleaner, and phosphoric acid is in mag wheel cleaner.
Don't get either on anything you want to keep, but neither will eat gold or silicon.
Wearing gloves and goggles should be obvious.
We used boiling pyrophosphoric acid to dissolve epoxy; I wouldn't recommend that unless you are a chemist.
Getting the chip off the interface board:
Once you get the epoxy off, it's a BGA chip sitting on a carrier with high temp solder balls, so just unsolder it.
You'll have to go over 500F, most likely.
It's possible you might be able to etch the solderballs off with PCB etching compound made of copper chloride, which is muractic acid and hydrogen peroxide, with some copper dissolved in it; it will eat copper, but not gold or silicon.
You might also be able to get it loose by running a current thru a solution of muractic acid and water; use the chip for the anode, and the etching solution will eat the tin off, and depositing it on the cathode. (I may have those backwards; I'll give it a try tomorrow.)