I have the exact same issues. Ryzen 3600/X470 with 64GB RAM (4 DIMMs, Hynix CJR, DR) @ 3600 MHz CL16. 14 sec POST time (only with CSM, pure UEFI is longer <-- go figure!). Windows 10 booting with NVMe isn't particularly fast either (could be the GPU driver stalling or Razer bloatware, dunno).
Sometimes it fails POST, sometimes it doesn't. I've tried literally everything. MemTest doesn't give me any errors during stress test.
What's funny is that whenever if fails POSTing and goes back to JEDEC 2133 MHz, I just enter the BIOS, re-select the OC profile and it boots just fine!
TBH, I don't mind the GPU noise, I consider it as an acoustic feedback for DRAM training failures.
I just wish POST never failed again! It happens once in every 5-10 reboots or something. Sometimes during cold boot as well.
I know using 4 sticks really pushes the IMC, but this intermittent POST failure is very weird and some people argue it didn't happen with ABBA 1.0.0.3 (I've only tried 1.0.0.4 and afterwards).
Regarding 1usmus DRAM calculator, I don't know what to say anymore. I've tried to contact Yuri myself and I got a recommendation (not all values) which is very different from v1.7.0-1.7.3 (yes, I've tried all versions) recommendations.
This guy here has a similar setup, but with a different CPU:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Amd/comments/dh30dw
Does anyone know if the I/O die is of different binning quality depending on the model (i.e. 3600 vs 3900X)? I know chiplets are binned, not sure about the I/O die.