sorry but that almost makes my blood boil.
started out as a bouncer in a punk bar and the owner of the installed system thought, "he's a big guy, he can push gear around!" the rest as they say, is history.
out of the several dozens audio engineers i've ran accross, both local and touring (hello RAT and showco!) would all be more than happy to share their exp/knowledge, most were all more than happy to pridefully show off their gear. esp one local guy (rip dale), most of my question was usually answered with, "it depends on the sin wave . ."
on the other hand there would be idiots from the local community college that thought they knew something - mixing live audio in headphones only; ignoring acoustics.
yeah their attitudes would get them brushed off quickly. but again, if it wasn't for other audio engineers, granted since i "worked" w/them it was better for them that i know more . . . but no, can't say it was an exclusive club at all.
sorry if your experience tells you other. you missed a lot of good conversations over a beer or two or dozen.