So the problem is, it seems like the majority of people, users, yourself included mix and match tribal knowledge from different CPUs and different series, and different manufacturers.
Contact Frames:
Contact frames work, but only in some cases. On some boards, and some cooler combos. They are means to correct a curvature problem that stems from a combo of, socket clam, backplate and cooler torsion. The issue came to light with 12th gen, but not every board was affected. those affected worked fine with some coolers. With the 13th gen I have found no credible widespread information regarding it as a problem, and even if I did, it would still suffer structurally from the variables mentioned above.
Heat:
That video really. We do not live in Intel 11th gen land. Or Zen 2 land. Or the Core 2 era. People do 90c to F conversion in google realize they can boil water and get scared they are going to set on fire. We are way past 60 and 70C load temps. Thermal density and physics doesnt allow this. We live in a world of element consideration and refinement when we carve and create micro architectures. We push stability to the brink of what the physical material can handle.
The 13th gen CPUs as shown above are meant to bump the limiter. They will continue to do so. This is how performance metrics are judged now. push as hard as you can for a few seconds then back off. Thats the formula. They are engineered as such.
The bigger question to ask is what you will put up with. Bigger coolers, water cooling etc serve a purpose sure. They dump heat. How hot do you want your office to get from that heat? Energy consumption is all the rage in reviews now. Much more than it was a decade ago. This is the new era. With advancements in silicon, process and architectures the temps only become an issue when pushing OCs. a stock 13th gen will happily push 90C at its target freq.
The elephant in the room is how much heat do you want to xfer, and how much energy do you want to burn? Controlling package power is not new but it is certainly getting more attention and is starting to become IMO from what it looks like, the preferred way to tame heat on the new CPU line.
Even AMD does this with Eco mode.
In short, no one is implementing a fix because it isn't as wide spread as you think, and silicon makers aren't implementing a fix because its the way its meant to run now. What needs to start changing is the users thinking. Much like the turbo button or FSB overclocks, 60-70c all core loads and 65w brisbanes are the way of the dinosaur. Computing has changed. and the goal posts are different now.