Haha I went through the same phase when I bought my former 3700X a month after launch, June 2019 production. The heat density and the idle behaviour was a bit of a culture shock coming even from a 4790K.
At some point I got used to it like most people do, it just takes time. Having an Asus board is a saving grace for Ryzen idle because of Q-fan's hysteresis controls, gotta use it. I run my 5900X under my souped-up C14S at a nearly flat fan curve of 40-45% between 0-83C, no ramping anymore.
At the end of the day, Intel's TDP is just as offensive, just in a different way. The only difference is that Comet Lake actually performs excellent thermally because of its new IHS and die/substrate thinning, subverting our expectations of thermals. But 11th gen is a complete regression in thermals so it's moot.
The issue with Ryzen will become quite apparent if you get a Renoir or Cezanne APU to play with. The monolithic Ryzens are both quite a bit cooler and seem to draw less power as well while clocking about the same if not better than their chiplet counterparts (same 4.1GHz all-core, albeit slightly slower), which makes them much better suited to SFF coolers. Same NH-U9S same NCASE same airflow, 75C on the 3700X (behaves similarly to the 3600), 60C on the 4650G.
And they run 10C cooler when pulling 110W through the entire chip than 60W through the CPU only. That should persuade you to stop regarding power draw as an indicator of temperature
They're technically also 65W parts, on paper. All in all, neither the AMD TDP nor PPT tell you too much. They're all "88W PPT", but the 5600X runs cooler than the 3600 as it doesn't max out its stock power limit, and the 4650G runs cooler than both. They're all "142W PPT", but the 5800X hits 80C+ on air in MT, while the 5900X runs at 70C in MT. Best to disregard advertised numbers and treat each CPU uniquely on thermals, same goes for Intel.